Melissa McCarthy made a public remark, that made me very proud to be a woman. Making up of course, for another female who's comment made me sick.
While the majority of the world has been cheering on Melissa's sudden shot to stardom (she pretty much MADE Brides Maids lol), Maura Kelly, a blogger for Marie Claire decided to take a jab. "So, anyways, yes I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two people with rolls, and rolls of fat kissing," she regarded of Melissa and her costar's plus-sized characters on the CTV hit, Mike And Molly. "Because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them do anything."
It's a perfect example of woman-on-woman hate. After centuries of being suppressed and stereotyped, females are meant to band together and support one another. There's already so much working against us, adding to each other's demise is completely unnecessary.
I realize that while we have fought for our female rights, we've also fought for our rights as human beings, including the right to freedom of speech. Ms. Kelly is entirely entitled to her own opinion, yes. However an opinion like THAT should be kept to one's self, not published on a world-read website Never mind the fact that it's a website for a pro-women publication. So backwards it's gross.
Melissa however came to the rescue of my faith in our kind. She could have (deservingly) replied with curse words, or stats proving that, fat or not, she is more successful then this blogger may ever be, she said something so profound.
"I hope that she doesn't have a daughter."
I mean, right?
I took having had a supportive, and encouraging in my early years, for granted I suppose. I can't imagine who I might be, standing here today, if my mother had gone around calling women sluts, or encouraging me to go on a diet at 8 years old. I've always wanted to be a writer, this woman blogging for a famous publication could have easily been my idol back then. And I'd have just learned, basically, that as a professional female it's ok to tear down others.
Melissa McCarthy hasn't let her size get in the way of being successful. And she hasn't let her success get in the way of pointing out what's really important. And that makes her pretty damn Shiny.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Skinny Jeans
While researching for an essay, I came across the most horrifying thing I have seen in a long time.
The essay is to be 3000 on SlutWalk and Rape Culture. As a victim of sexual assault myself, I have always remained well-read on the topic...SlutWalk is an annual feminist protest sparked by Toronto's Constable Michael Sanguinetti who stated that if women didn't dress like sluts, they wouldn't get raped...and Slut Culture is a term used to illustrate a society in which rape and sexual violence against women are common, and in which prevalent attitudes, norms, and media normalize, excuse, or tolerate sexual violence against women. (I also watch a whole lot of Law&Order SVU, which leaves me feeling educated, too) Tonight however, I found something brand-new. Brand-new and horrifying.
This article describes a new defense that is being played in the courts, to get rapists off. The notion alone is disgusting, I know, but it gets worse.
It's called The Skinny Jean Defense, and claims that pants that tight are impossible to remove without the aid of the wearer. AKA if you claim to have been raped, the pants had to have come off, and if the pants came off, it had to have been consensual.
Well, that makes sense!
Don't get me wrong, I myself feel rather accomplished when I get my skinnies on or off without falling over. However, it's not impossible. And EVEN IF the guy demanded his victim's help, the fact that she unwillingly does what she's told does not, in any way, mean that she is welcoming sex.
It blows my mind that people are able to come up with such repulsive ideas. Never mind how unbelievable it is to know that there are people ignorant enough to believe it.
Shiny Girl wears skinnies, because SHE knows that no still means no.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Who IS Shiny Girl
I wish that I was, but I'm not, the kind of 'geek' who cruises shop aisles for comic books and graphic novels, and unless we're talking Christian Bale or Clooney, the Batman-type character doesn't inspire me..but I've decided I still need a superhero in my life.
Instead of Googling any and every kickass female superhero ever cartooned, I decided to create my own. Someone I know I could look up to, and learn from, and lean on. And someone really shiny. As I'm making a list of qualities that my idea superhero should possess, I realized, 'Good lord, I am looking in a mirror!'
Instead of Googling any and every kickass female superhero ever cartooned, I decided to create my own. Someone I know I could look up to, and learn from, and lean on. And someone really shiny. As I'm making a list of qualities that my idea superhero should possess, I realized, 'Good lord, I am looking in a mirror!'
Add a little shimmer, and I myself, could be her.
What do you think?
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